I disagree with my husband on the subject of gay marriage. It’s not that he doesn’t support gay marriage, it’s that he doesn’t think it should be called marriage because marriage is a religious union, not necessarily a legally recognized one.
I think that marriage has become less about faith, and more about the couples involved. Many of the gay couples I have known and know in my life are committed to each other and are far more attentive to their partner’s needs than most of the heterosexual couples I know. I don’t necessarily believe that there is a reason for this, and I doubt you could find a statistic to back it up, but this is my experience with it.
I am having a hard time, finding the words to describe what I feel in terms of gay relationships. I didn’t choose a gay relationship for myself or my kids (in my case, I feel that it’s a choice because it doesn’t matter to me whether someone I love is a man or a woman), but I did choose a loving relationship. Much as my husband and I have had our ups and downs, some of them pretty spectacular over the years that we have been married, we share the most intense feeling of love I’ve ever really experienced. To me, that was what mattered. Why should it matter to you, or to anyone else if the person I chose to spend my life with was a man or a woman?
I have a great book for you to read on this subject, that poses the question “Why does it matter?”
Something to think about.
